- You really have watched a lovelier sunset, eaten a sweeter peach and seen a more beautiful baby.
- You can say, “When I was your age …” to more and more people.
- You don’t have to feel compelled to know all the answers. Or all the questions.
- If you want to change your mind, nobody thinks anything of it.
- When you decide to do something on the spur of the moment, nobody thinks anything of it either.
- There’s nothing left to learn the hard way.
- You’ve seen it all before, even if you don’t remember where and when.
- No more pregnancy scares.
- Senior-citizen discounts – reduced motel rates, airfares, movie tickets, etc.
- You can relax, quit trying to impress people and be your best self.
- Enough time to give blood, forget a grudge, pray for someone you don’t even like and do something kind for someone who’ll never know who did it.
- Lying about your age is easier now that you sometimes forget what it is.
- Instead of counting sheep when you can’t sleep at night, you can count your retirement accounts, friends with hip replacement, pills you forgot to take and the birthdays you had celebrated.
- You will probably be among the first hostages to be released.
- Drivers are more likely to stop for you when you’re in a crosswalk.
- More body parts can be medically replaced.
- Taking time out for a walk is no longer considered a luxury but an essential.
- Most of life’s major disappointments are behind you.
- You have developed a new appreciation of old things – old friends, old books, old values and old ideals, old wine … and yourself.
- You have gained the amazing insight that the faults of others are no worse than your own.
- Personal experience has proven that spending time with loved ones is far more meaningful than spending money on them.
- You’ve learned that enjoying the journey may be just as important as reaching the destination.
- You realize that the gifts of life, health and love outweigh anything mere money could buy.
- You’re finally accepting the reality that you won’t live long enough to do all the things other people want you to do; so you’re beginning to select priorities that matter most in the long run.
- You know that lighting someone else’s candle in no way diminishes yours.
- You change the things that can be changed, accept those that cannot and pray for the wisdom to know the difference.
- You minimize preoccupation with the negatives in your life and concentrate on your gratitude for all the positives.
- You listen more, learn more, laugh more, love more, lend a helping hand more and live more.
- Leaving a legacy of love, integrity and good deeds is far more valuable than a great estate of material wealth.
- Finally, good enough is really good enough.
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The annual marathon usually occurs during a heat wave. Lisa’s job was to follow behind the runners in an ambulance in case any of them needed medical attention. The driver and her were in an air-conditioned ambulance behind thousands of athletes waiting to hear the sharp crack of the starting gun.
“We’re supposed to stay behind the last runner, so take it slowly,” Lisa said to the driver, Doug, as they began to creep forward.
“Let’s just hope the last runner is fast!” Doug laughed.
As the runners began to pace themselves, the front runners started to disappear. It was then that Lisa noticed the woman in blue silk running shorts and a baggy with T-shirt.
They knew they were already watching their “last runner”. Her feet were turned in, yet her left knee was turned out. Her legs were so crippled and bent that it seemed impossible for her to be able to walk, let alone run a marathon.
Lisa and Doug watched in silence as she slowly moved forward. They didn’t say a word. They would move forward a little bit, then stop and wait for her to gain some distance. Then they’d slowly move forward a little bit more.
As Lisa watched the woman struggle to put one foot in front of the other, she found herself breathing for her and urging her forward. She wanted the woman to stop, and at the same time, she prayed that she wouldn’t.
Finally, the woman was the only runner left in sight. Tears streamed down Lisa’s face as she sat on the edge of her seat and watched with awe, amazement and even reverence as the woman pushed forward with sheer determination through the last miles.
When the finish line came into sight, trash lay everywhere and the cheering crowds had long gone home. Yet, standing straight and ever so proud waited a lone man. He was holding one end of a ribbon of crepe paper tied to a post. The woman slowly crossed through, leaving both ends of the paper fluttering behind her.
Lisa does not know this woman’s name, but this woman became a part of her life since that day – a part she often depends on. For the woman, it wasn’t about beating the other runners or winning a trophy, it was about finishing what she had set out to do, no matter what. When Lisa thinks things are too difficult or too time consuming, or she gets the thought of “I just can’t do it”, she thinks of the last runner. Then she realizes how easy the task before her really is.
Two patients, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours each day. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, places they had been on vacation.
Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those moments where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activities and color of the world outside.
The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man couldn’t hear the band – he could see it in his mind as the man by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.
Days and weeks passed. One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.
As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly and painfully, the man propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to turn slowly to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall!
The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate, who had described such wonderful things outside this window. The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, “Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.”
There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can’t buy.
A British guy participated in the hit Chinese dating show, “If You Are the One”. The format of the show is copied from the British dating show “Take Me Out”. The Chinese version is in your face about money; male contestants will frequently show off their bank statements and luxury cars in an effort to earn the interest from a parade of 24 women, who will either pass on them by turning off their lights or compete for a date.
First question: “Are you the only son?”
The guy answered, “No, I have an elder brother who was married.”
(A few lights turned off.)
“Do you own a house?”
“Yes, but it’s an old house from last century.”
(A few more lights turned off.)
“Where will you live after married?”
“Live with grandma, dad, step-mum, brother and sister-in-law.”
(More lights turned off.)
“What is your occupation?”
“I’m a soldier.”
(More lights turned off.)
“What is your father’s job?”
“My father does not have a job.”
(Now, only one light was still on.)
The woman with her light on asked, “Will you hire a limousine for wedding?”
“Well, my grandma will probably not allow it. We normally use a horse drawn carriage for wedding. Do you like horse drawn carriage?”
The woman snorted, “I’d rather cry in the back of a limousine!”
All the lights were off now.
The British guy was embarrassed and left the show with tears.
Next day, the headline of Times:
“Prince Harry Got Eliminated in the First Round of Chinese Dating Show”
Many years later, Prince Harry got married to an American actress.
In the movie “Seven Pounds”, a girl who might die at any time due to her possible sudden heart failure was in love with a guy. One night, they played a “what if” game. The girl said, “What if I get a donor for my heart? What if the heart works and my body doesn’t reject it? What if I have more time to live?”
The guy answered after a pause, “What if we got married? What if we have children? What if we grow old together?”
And they hugged. The girl finally got a donor, had the heart transplant and survived. The donor – the guy she was dating.
Everyone plays this “what if” game to their life.
What if I studied harder and got a better exam result?
What if I took another course in the University?
What if I accepted the other job offer?
What if I got the courage to ask her out?
What if I met her before she met him?
What if I cared about my parents more?
What if I had been more patient and avoided that argument?
What if I saved up more money than spent them without thinking?
The list goes on and on. It’s interesting how the choices we made and our actions can change the path of our life. However, there are no parallel universes (hope you are not a quantum physician) and we cannot go back in time to make all the right decisions and result all the appropriate outcomes. We always like to look back at the past – our golden youth and sweet memories, and also all the chances that slipped through our fingers in those years.
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift, that’s why it is called the “present”. Misery is optional, success is possible. The choice is up to you. Hug the ones you love, learn and do what you like, give up your bad habits, live your desired lifestyle. When we recall the past, we usually find that it is the simplest things that in retrospect give off the greatest glow of happiness. I like the quote from Dan Brown – “If not me – then who? If not now – then when? If not this way – then how?” Put the past behind, put the future into proper perspective, and live each day as if it might be your last, for one day it will be. So, pursue your passions and make the right choices now. Make your life matter!
A man was chosen for jury duty who very much wanted to be dismissed from serving. He tried every excuse he could think of but none of them worked.
On the day of the trial he decided to give it one more shot. As the trial was about to begin he asked if he could approach the bench.
“Your Honor,” he said, “I must be excused from this trial because I am prejudiced against the defendant. I took one look at the man in the blue suit with those beady eyes and that dishonest face and I said ‘He’s a crook! He’s guilty, guilty, guilty.’ So your Honor, I could not possibly stay on this jury!”
The judge replied, “Get back in the jury box. You are just the kind of juror we are looking for – a good judge of character. That man is his lawyer.”
10. This is good enough
The fact is that nothing is ever good enough. It may be good enough for today, but if we have the same health problem for the last few years, we better fix it before we reach the point where we cannot.
9. This is how it was always done
We are not robots that execute the same program again and again. Today’s problems require a new set of solutions along with people’s expectations from them, set a terrific pace of change.
8. There isn’t enough time to do it now
As long as we can repay the extra time we need in the immediate future, this is part of the process; but if this is how we avoid making the right decision and the responsibility that goes with it, we are not being true to ourselves.
7. This requires dramatic changes
What doesn’t? Graduating from college, getting married, having kids, loved ones leaving us, all involve change. We should be flexible and amenable to changes as life develops. Change is the nature of the work, not an anomaly to be used as an excuse!
6. It isn’t that important
What exactly is important – learning new skills, becoming healthier, living a happier life? We need to set and execute our own priorities, however small, every day, instead of waiting for some giant, magical mandate from above, because that’s never going to happen.
5. There is already a lot on our plate
If we fill our plate at the buffet with junk and decide we can’t have a desired dish because our plate is full, we have done two things wrong: we chose the wrong things to begin with and then we haven’t thrown the junk off our plate to get what we want. We don’t give up our dreams, we clean our plate.
4. It is very complex and risky in taking actions
We are designed to deal with complexity and be careful about making changes – that’s a basic requirement. If this is a reason we cannot execute an idea, we need to go back to relearn the basics.
3. No one is asking for it
People are incredibly adaptable – they will live with whatever you give them. But they are incredibly fickle too; an idea you kill that can improve the life of others will only bloom in someone’s mind. Being sloppy is setting the bar at a level that’s not worthy of us.
2. It needs to be agreed by others
If we had done our homework and spent time in studying, learning and working in a specific field, we are capable to make the final decision. Otherwise all the expertise is wasted. A group decision is sometimes a way to duck responsibility for the outcome.
1. It cannot be done
There is nothing that cannot be done. Instead of saying “it can’t be done”, we should respond with specifics of what it takes to achieve like “it will take how much time, cost and resources to deliver it”. Everything can be done; let’s get into that mindset first. The rest will fall into place.