This blog will hopefully inspire you, warm your heart, make you smile and feel positive.

Two Patients

Two patients, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours each day. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, places they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those moments where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activities and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man couldn’t hear the band – he could see it in his mind as the man by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days and weeks passed. One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly and painfully, the man propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to turn slowly to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall!

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate, who had described such wonderful things outside this window. The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, “Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.”

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can’t buy.

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Doomsday Clock

The Doomsday Clock is a symbol that represents the likelihood of a global catastrophe. The Clock was first represented in 1947 and was then maintained by the Bulletin of the Atomic Scientists’ Science and Security Board. The Clock originally represents an analogy for the threat of a global nuclear war. Since 2007, it also reflects climate change and other new developments in life sciences and technology that can inflict irrevocable harm to humanity. The Clock represents the hypothetical global catastrophe as “midnight” and the Bulletin’s opinion on how close the world is to a global catastrophe as a number of “minutes” to midnight. On 25-Jan-2018, the Bulletin moved the Doomsday Clock to 2 minutes to midnight – the closest to midnight as it has ever been. The world is now as dangerous as it has been since World War II.

It is disappointed that the human race is put in this self-destructive situation by a few nations. But just a thought, if the war starts tomorrow, what will you do? Will you try to figure out a survival plan? Check if any shelter or bunker nearby that you can hide? Withdraw all the money from your bank account and grab as much food as possible? Or just partying as hell with your friends? Will you just stay at home waiting for the doomsday quietly and enjoy a little calm at the end after a busy life? I may delete all my social media accounts as I don’t like to leave things behind. So it’s a pity for those project issues that I didn’t fix, the loved ones who I didn’t have a chance to say farewell, the apologies I didn’t make, those lost friends I didn’t reconnect – all the things I think I always have time to do later.

There is a saying that your whole life will flash before you when you die – your childhood, school life, graduation, first day of your first job, getting married, kids taking their first steps. All the memories are packed into a short period of time like a movie trailer. We can’t change the past, so we hope for a better tomorrow. The Doomsday Clock is a reminder to us that tomorrow is not guaranteed. You are the leading role in your life, so live in the present, enjoy every play and be happy whenever you can. Don’t wait till you are looking down from heaven, life is too short to be unhappy. Although tomorrow’s sunrise encourages us for a brand new start, tonight can still be beautiful and attractive.

Your Epiccenter

A man was thinking about opening a pizza place. His passion was making pizza and having others enjoy it, so he thought it could be a good business for him. As soon as he began the process of opening the restaurant, though, there were lots of other questions he had to consider: the location, taxes, staffing and business planning. So he began researching and talking to people, which all took a lot of time. He figured out the right location, the staffing, the tax implications, the business plan, and more. He felt he was ready to open the restaurant. But what suffered when he finally got started was the actual quality of the pizzas.

How could that be? Wasn’t the pizza-making itself his passion? In fact it happens to most of us. We get caught up by all the other things around us that it makes us easily forget the core that creates meaning for our life. So how to turn things around? The epicenter is the core of anything. In terms of earthquakes, it’s where the process begins. In other words, an epicenter is your core idea – your passion. Why are you doing this thing as opposed to doing some other things? When you find that passion in your epicenter, you will work in the flow and produce more quality work. If you begin from your epicenter and view that as your foundation, you can understand more clearly what’s necessary to do in the future and what’s not.

There are always going to be other things that need to be addressed. But if your energy is focused on what you absolutely want to do, you will get better at knowing how to deal with everything else. Think of any random day at work. A lot of people easily become distracted: emails, meetings, people stopping by, and phone calls. This is not focusing on your epicenter. If you arrive at work on any given day and think: “What do I need to achieve today?” Then your day will be much more productive. You will be focusing towards your epicenter. But if you allow yourself to be pulled in any new direction the moment it arises, you’re not working towards your epicenter. You’re just working towards tasks. If you want to be more productive and happy, determine your epicenter. Then work from there.

If You Are the One

A British guy participated in the hit Chinese dating show, “If You Are the One”. The format of the show is copied from the British dating show “Take Me Out”. The Chinese version is in your face about money; male contestants will frequently show off their bank statements and luxury cars in an effort to earn the interest from a parade of 24 women, who will either pass on them by turning off their lights or compete for a date.

First question: “Are you the only son?”

The guy answered, “No, I have an elder brother who was married.”

(A few lights turned off.)

“Do you own a house?”

“Yes, but it’s an old house from last century.”

(A few more lights turned off.)

“Where will you live after married?”

“Live with grandma, dad, step-mum, brother and sister-in-law.”

(More lights turned off.)

“What is your occupation?”

“I’m a soldier.”

(More lights turned off.)

“What is your father’s job?”

“My father does not have a job.”

(Now, only one light was still on.)

The woman with her light on asked, “Will you hire a limousine for wedding?”

“Well, my grandma will probably not allow it. We normally use a horse drawn carriage for wedding. Do you like horse drawn carriage?”

The woman snorted, “I’d rather cry in the back of a limousine!”

All the lights were off now.

The British guy was embarrassed and left the show with tears.

Next day, the headline of Times:

“Prince Harry Got Eliminated in the First Round of Chinese Dating Show”

Many years later, Prince Harry got married to an American actress.

Apps For Staying Positive

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The main goal of this blog is to make the readers feel a little more positive by posting some inspiration contents. But ever imagined an app on our mobile to delight ourselves and brighten our day? I searched on internet and the following apps are suggested that can bring positive vibes to our everyday life. Just download one of them, start using it and comment whether it works for you.

1. Happify

This app can help you think positively as it helps you set goals in different “tracks” of your life. Each track has its own little quizzes, games and activities. These activities are often as simple as asking you to list things you are grateful for or noticing positive words in a game and avoiding negative ones.

2. Pozify

Pozify rewards you for being a positive person. It encourages you to spread positive messages. The app rewards people for creating and spreading valuable content on the web. The points you get for spreading positive content can be used to trade in for gift cards or cool products.

3. Positive Thinking

The key for changing your life is the power of positive thinking. The “Positive Thinking” app has an index of different motivational topics including steps to develop positive thinking, methods to eliminate negative emotions, methods to attract wealth, tips to develop a positive attitude and emotional quotes.

4. Live Happy

The “Live Happy” app tries to make your life a little happier. This app is filled with different activities for you to evaluate your goals, keep track of happy days, maintain a gratitude journal and remember random acts of kindness.

5. Gratitude Journal

The process of writing down what you are grateful for every day can have a positive impact on your life and on your outlook on the future. The “Gratitude Journal” app prompts you to write down 5 things you are grateful for every day. You can even add photos to your lists as well. The app makes it easy for you to rate your feelings and add notes so you can continue to incorporate this positive thinking approach to your everyday life.

Be a Jazz Musician

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When you start a new project at work, your boss always wants you to create the project plan first. Planning is a concrete path to success. Without a plan, failure is guaranteed. To an extent, this is true. But in reality, a plan is actually no more than guessing. Hundreds (if not millions) of plans concocted every day. While planning does give you a glimpse of the future, how we think about it is misguided. We view planning as a GPS that can guide us anywhere. In reality, it’s a GPS that sometimes fails to work or give us completely accurate directions.

The key point is plans reduce panic. We all fear uncertainty, even though uncertainty is essentially normative. Having a plan gives us more certainty and makes us panic less. To reduce uncertainties, we worry too much about covering all the bases. We then lack action around how things actually go. There will always be a gap between the ideal world and reality. When we over-commit ourselves to the plan, it restricts us from solving the problem out of the ordinary and making the best decisions in an unexpected situation.

Planning is essentially guesswork. Don’t get obsessed with your plan. Blindly following an unrealistic plan will only make things worse. Think about jazz musicians. They perform with a plan, but also go with the flow. It’s very spontaneous and improvised by the end. It’s the same with the comedians. Comedians begin their set with a plan of jokes, but they need to respond to the audience. Maybe you get heckled. Maybe one set of jokes isn’t working. You need to adjust the plan.

Planning isn’t the only way to success. Rather, a plan must be reviewed continually to see if it aligns with the challenges faced in reality. Don’t let a plan confine you from making decisions on what’s best for the situation. Follow the base in the plan, but improvise along the way when facing different situations. When conditions change, the plan needs to change. Don’t let the plan be everything. Be prepared to improvise. Be a jazz musician.

Today is a Present

In the movie “Seven Pounds”, a girl who might die at any time due to her possible sudden heart failure was in love with a guy. One night, they played a “what if” game. The girl said, “What if I get a donor for my heart? What if the heart works and my body doesn’t reject it? What if I have more time to live?”

The guy answered after a pause, “What if we got married? What if we have children? What if we grow old together?”

And they hugged. The girl finally got a donor, had the heart transplant and survived. The donor – the guy she was dating.

Everyone plays this “what if” game to their life.

What if I studied harder and got a better exam result?
What if I took another course in the University?
What if I accepted the other job offer?
What if I got the courage to ask her out?
What if I met her before she met him?
What if I cared about my parents more?
What if I had been more patient and avoided that argument?
What if I saved up more money than spent them without thinking?

The list goes on and on. It’s interesting how the choices we made and our actions can change the path of our life. However, there are no parallel universes (hope you are not a quantum physician) and we cannot go back in time to make all the right decisions and result all the appropriate outcomes. We always like to look back at the past – our golden youth and sweet memories, and also all the chances that slipped through our fingers in those years.

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift, that’s why it is called the “present”. Misery is optional, success is possible. The choice is up to you. Hug the ones you love, learn and do what you like, give up your bad habits, live your desired lifestyle. When we recall the past, we usually find that it is the simplest things that in retrospect give off the greatest glow of happiness. I like the quote from Dan Brown – “If not me – then who? If not now – then when? If not this way – then how?” Put the past behind, put the future into proper perspective, and live each day as if it might be your last, for one day it will be. So, pursue your passions and make the right choices now. Make your life matter!