This blog will hopefully inspire you, warm your heart, make you smile and feel positive.

Archive for the ‘Inspiration’ Category

5 Ways to Bounce Back

1. Don’t take what happened too personally, it might not be your fault.

If you were having a normal day and somebody decided to show negativity around it’s not up to you to take it to yourself. For example, if your boss was having a bad day himself and yelled at you for no reason at all you just need to let it go. Of course, it feels bad especially when you’re on the right track and things are going smoothly with you at work. Everyone hates being targeted for something they don’t rightfully deserve. But you need to be professional and shrug it off. Do not take those people or their actions to heart.

2. Take a half-day leave and go home to rest and relax.

Ideally, you should keep work life and personal life separately; this is one of the reasons why they have strict rules against dating your colleagues. If your day is getting worst at work then it is probably a bad idea to stick around and sulk while showing no productivity at all. It can have a negative influence on your peers as well. If you can’t seem to escape your issues at work you should probably call it a day and go home to rest on your bed.

3. Find a distraction to keep you calm and sane.

The best way to deal with a bad day is to forget about it. As it can be quite a task to forget things like that you should try to look for a distraction. Do something that makes you happy or has a calming effect on your mind. Like reading a book after a long day or going for a evening run. You can also have peppermint green tea and feel better for the rest of the day. If being alone doesn’t help, go out with a friend or on a date to get things off your mind. Having a distraction can be a blessing when you’ve spent the day sulking.

4. Rant and vent every single ounce of frustration out.

It often happens that after a very bad day at work you might end up feeling so heavy and consumed with various emotions. The best way to deal with it is to vent it out. Scream, write about it or tell your friend or someone who is willing to listen. The sooner it is out of your system, the better. Ranting actually proves to be one of the most effective solutions to feel better after a bad day.

5. Evaluate the day and think it through in your mind.

Do you even know the reason why it happened? Have you tried evaluating the facts that led you to have a bad day all along? It is important to think it through, run the whole scenario in your head before you put it back and move on. If you know the reason why it happened, you’ll be able to cope with it accordingly. It is vital that you make things easier for yourself by learning the reason behind it.

Utilize Every Moment

moment

Waiting in line or waiting at all for anything can seem like a drag. Rather than painfully watching every precious minute slide by, you can turn wait times into a blessing by accomplishing small tasks, like replying to a quick e-mail, sending out an important message while serving the time, or even read a page of your e-book. Technology has made everything and anything accessible with its myriad of mobile devices; instead of getting wrapped up in social media while waiting in line or commuting on public transport, take advantage of the advent of technology by ticking things off your To Do list instead.

The 2-Minute Rule was coined by David Allen in his book “Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity”. It goes by the principle that if a task can be completed within 2 minutes, then instead of putting it off, do it then and there. It is surprising how much we can achieve in 2 minutes that we actually tend to put off. For example, unsubscribing from a newsletter that we might not want to receive in the future, is so easy to put off for later. What we fail to realize is the later the task is accomplished, the more junk e-mail we end up having to use our precious time to delete. Living by the 2-Minute Rule not only avoids procrastination, but ensures that every minute counts and our actions don’t come back to bite us in the future.

We need to invest time to save time. In other words, to save future time, we might have to invest time picking up on tips and cues in the present. Purposely going the extra mile to seek a shorter route with less traffic to work may require more time at first, but imagine how much time in the future you will be saving by doing so. When we are so used to our own way, it is easy to become complacent with exploration, which in turn stunts our ability to shave off the extra minutes from our usual day to day tasks. Turn being curious into an investment and you might just discover tricks to earn you some extra time moving forward.

Exceed Your Level

In the book “The Art of Expressing the Human Body”, Bruce Lee’s friend, John Little, talked about the experience of running with him.

Bruce had me up to 3 miles a day, really at a good pace. We’d run the 3 miles in 21 or 22 minutes. Just under 8 minutes a mile. When Bruce running on his own, he would get his time down to 6.5 minutes per mile.

So this morning he said to me, “We’re going to go five (miles).” I said, “Bruce, I can’t go 5. I’m a lot older than you are, and I can’t do 5.” He said, “When we get to 3, we’ll shift gears and it’s only 2 more and you’ll do it.”

I said “Okay, hell, I’ll go for it.” So we get to 3, we go into the 4th mile and I’m okay for 3 or 4 minutes, and then I really begin to give out. I’m tired, my heart’s pounding, I can’t go any more and so I said to him, “Bruce, if I run any more, I’m liable to have a heart attack and die.”

He said, “Then die.” It made me so mad that I went the full 5 miles.

Afterward I went to the shower and then I wanted to talk to him about it. I said, “Why did you say that?”

He said, “Because you might as well be dead. Seriously, if you always put limits on what you can do, physical or anything else, it’ll spread over into the rest of your life. It’ll spread into your work, into your morality, into your entire being. There are no limits. There are plateaus, but you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. If it kills you, it kills you. A man must constantly exceed his level.”

If you let limits define the possibility of your life, you’re not growing, you’re dying.

The Bamboo Tree

Do you know how a bamboo tree grows? It is different from most trees in that it doesn’t grow in the usual fashion. While most trees grow steadily over a period of years, the bamboo tree doesn’t break through the ground for the first 4 years. Then, in the 5th year, the tree begins to grow at an astonishing rate. In fact, in a period of just 6 weeks, a bamboo tree can grow to a height of 90 feet. It’s almost as if you can actually see the tree growing before you.

Life is like the growing process of the bamboo tree. You can work for weeks, months and even years on your dream with no visible signs of progress and then, all of the sudden, things take off. Your business becomes profitable, your marriage becomes more vibrant and passionate, your contribution to the community becomes more significant. Yet, all of this requires faith. The growers of the bamboo tree have faith that if they keep watering and fertilizing the ground, the tree will break through. You must have the same kind of faith in your bamboo tree. You must have faith that if you keep making the calls, honing your craft, reading to your children, reaching out to your spouse or asking for donations, that you too will see rapid growth in the future.

This is the hard part for most of us. We get so excited about the idea that’s been planted inside of us that we simply can’t wait for it to blossom. Therefore, within days or weeks of the initial planting, we become discouraged and begin to second guess ourselves. Sometimes, in our doubt, we dig up our seed and plant it elsewhere, in hopes that it will quickly rise in more fertile ground. But we are then disappointed when our tree doesn’t grow any faster in the new land.

Other times, people will water the ground for a time but then, quickly become discouraged. They start to wonder if it’s worth all of the effort. This is particularly true when they see their neighbors having success with other trees. They start to question, “Why am I trying to grow a bamboo tree? If I had planted a lemon tree, I’d have a few lemons by now.”

What we fail to realize is that pursuing our dream is a sure thing if we just don’t give up. So long as we keep watering and fertilizing our dream, it will come to fruition. It may take weeks, months, or even years, but eventually, the roots will take hold and your tree will grow. And when it does, it will grow in remarkable ways. Everyone has a bamboo tree inside just waiting to break through. So keep watering and believing and you too will be flying high before you know it.

Let Go The Nuts

monkey

Do you know how monkey-hunters catch monkeys? They use a box with an opening at the top, big enough for the monkey to slide its hand in. Inside the box are nuts. The monkey grabs the nuts and now its hand becomes a fist. The monkey tries to get its hand out but the opening is big enough for the hand to slide in, but too small for the fist to come out. Now the monkey has a choice, either to let go the nuts and be free or hang on to the nuts and get caught.

Guess what it picks every time? It hangs on to the nuts and gets caught. Sometimes, we are no different from monkeys. We all hang on to some nuts that keep us from moving forward in life. We keep rationalizing by saying, “I cannot do this because …” whatever follows are the nuts that we are hanging on to which are holding us back.

Success doesn’t happen to you; you make it happen. It’s about working hard to position yourself there. The bottom line is that you have to put in the work. It’s as simple as that. Be honest with yourself that it’s going to take both hard work and patience to get there. Look yourself in the mirror and ask if the time and work you’re putting into your goals realistically supports what you want. Even after you decide what your goals are, the hard part is maintaining the hustle afterwards.

Successful people don’t rationalize. Two things determine if a person will succeed: reasons and results. Reasons don’t count while results do.

30 Tips To Help You Grow

growup

  1. Do what you love.
  2. Learn from failures.
  3. Be ambitious, but also plan.
  4. Follow your passion.
  5. Be creative.
  6. Read self-help books.
  7. Be practical.
  8. Avoid being materialistic.
  9. Be a good listener.
  10. Give it your best.
  11. Create powerful habits.
  12. Stop trying to impress.
  13. Become a natural leader.
  14. Understand work politics.
  15. Don’t be an open book.
  16. Pursue an enjoyable hobby.
  17. Teach others.
  18. Spend time with great and creative people.
  19. Love yourself.
  20. Be disciplined.
  21. Continually improve your life.
  22. Get the necessary skills.
  23. Be curious.
  24. Keep fit.
  25. Do not procrastinate.
  26. Rise early.
  27. Do volunteer jobs.
  28. Help people.
  29. Have a career plan.
  30. Kill the bad habits.

Life is a Struggle

struggle

During an interview the Dalai Lama was asked what surprises him the most, his response was quite mind altering:

“Man surprised me most about humanity. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”

A pretty inspirational quote if you really take it in. We think the more we earn, the happier we’ll be. We live our lives in a destructive way and only to use money to fix it later. We save for the retirement that we may never make it to. It appears as though we live to work more than anything else. So don’t live for tomorrow, slow down and live for the now. Spend less time being workaholics and hang out more with our families.

But in reality, is it that surprising? We are not the Dalai Lama. Most of us do sacrifice in one way or another to work and earn a living. Most people do not live as though they will never die and then die without ever having truly lived. Most people do struggle – for their families, their friends, their businesses, for time to fulfill all their needs at the end of the day. There is nothing wrong to challenge yourself and work hard for a better tomorrow.

I provided Pope Paul VI’s quote below as a contrast to what the Dalai Lama had said:

“All life demands struggle. Those who have everything given to them become lazy, selfish, and insensitive to the real values of life. The very striving and hard work that we so constantly try to avoid is the major building block in the person we are today.”