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8 Things to Remove from Life

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1. Excuses
We don’t blame others for our life. We are fully responsible for our own life and situation. We hold the power to significantly improve our life. When you make up excuses, you are lying to yourself, which will hold you back from fulfilling your dreams.

2. Perfectionism
Trying to achieve perfection is a waste of time. Instead of worrying about the mistakes that you have made, simply focus on trying to better yourself with small steps. No one is perfect, but anyone can make the decision to be a better person.

3. Fear
Many people keep quiet during discussions when they want to say something; they avoid taking risks; and they always think about the worst-case scenario. This fearful attitude will stop you from achieving your full potential, so remove it from your life and be brave instead; speak up, voice your thoughts and actively chase your dreams.

4. The Need To Control Everything
You can’t control everything and trying to do so is a futile task. It will only make you feel stressed, upset and frustrated. Instead of trying to control everything around you, make an effort to care less about the things you can’t control and focus on the things that you can.

5. A Fixed Mindset
Lots of people have a fixed mindset and they make no effort to learn more or change their perception. This makes them hard to become more successful as their mindset is stuck in the past. Try to embrace knowledge and learning, and remember that you can always become wiser.

6. The Desire For Overnight Success
Some people believe that the majority of successful people became successful overnight or by chance. While luck can certainly play its part, you can’t rely on luck to become successful. In reality, success takes time and dedication, so you should plan for the future as well as the day ahead of you.

7. Toxic People
Remove the negative and pessimistic people from your life and replace them with optimistic and supportive people who genuinely care about you. You will find that you will be more motivated and happier.

8. The Need To Say Yes
We sometimes struggle to say no to the people around us. We end up wasting time doing things that we don’t want to do and other people might start to take advantage of us. Be brave and say no when you want to; only you can make the priorities of your life.

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5 Rules for a Happier Life

1. People Don’t Care As Much As You Think
Being so caught up in what others think of us or acting in a way to meet their expectations is detrimental to us because everyone is wrapped up in their own problems and insecurities. Most of what we believe people are thinking are only assumptions in our own minds. No one will give a damn about how you live your life. Being yourself without worrying what others think will go a long way in achieving personal happiness.

2. We Are Constantly Changing Who We Are
Are you the same person you were 10 years ago? You’re not. Our past, present and future selves are all independent because our mindsets change with our lives’ circumstances and experiences. We should always be true to our present selves when making decisions. We can never predict what our future self will think and feel, and everything that happened in the past was for our past selves. The power is all in the now.

3. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
We all post our best moments on Facebook and start comparing ourselves to others’ seemingly ‘perfect’ lives. The truth is we are all vulnerable. It is a waste of time to believe that people are somehow better than us and have their life sorted out, while seeing us for who we really are. Comparisons and feeling inferior to other people is futile because even the most powerful people have worries, insecurities and uncertainties inside them.

4. Don’t Assume Your Advice Will Be Listened To
Did you ever give your friends advice to sort out their glaring problems but they didn’t listen? You then feel frustrated. No one ever really listens to advice unless they happen to be in the right mindset at the right time. People will only change their mindsets or outlooks through their own realizations and experiences. Sometimes it may come in the form of your advice but most of the time it needs to happen for them at their own pace. Don’t feel ignored or disheartened – you did your bit, now let them work it out.

5. You Can Only Control Your Response
How you react to a problem, event or situation is much more important than the situation itself. In life, attitude is everything in how happy you become overall. You can choose to react in a way that will ricochet throughout your future thoughts, feelings and emotions or choose to acknowledge a better way. Remember to take yourself out of a negative situation for a few seconds and reset your mind before reacting. This can help you train yourself to understand the possible its effects for others and yourself.

7 Beliefs to Make You Happier

  1. I am a human being and as a human being I have a right to make mistakes. I have a right to have strengths and weaknesses. Nobody else expects me to be perfect, so why should I?
  2. I like to be loved, appreciated, respected and approved of but I can’t expect to have the whole world think of me like that or even all the people I know. Their approval is good but I do not have to depend on it to be happy.
  3. Other people or situations can’t make me unhappy; it is what I tell myself that determines how I feel. If someone criticizes me, I can choose to let that upset me or I can choose to ignore it and learn from it.
  4. I am responsible for making my own happiness but I am not responsible for making other people’s happiness. I am, however, responsible for my behavior towards other people.
  5. While unhappy, sad or traumatic things may have happened to me in the past, they don’t have to devastate my future. I can let go of feelings about those unhappy times.
  6. No matter what life throws at me, I know I can cope alone if necessary. I may not like what happens but as a human being I have been designed to cope with good and bad, happy and sad, and to survive! If I am anguished it is because I am fighting that situation. If I accept it I will have the strength and energy to deal with it.
  7. I am allowed to feel anxious, frightened or unsure. There are human emotions in certain situations and I am human.

Why Intelligent People Can’t find Happiness

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They are the victim of over analysis.

Most people with high level of intelligence lean towards over-thinking and keep analyzing everything that occurs in their life, their surroundings and beyond. Too much thinking can be exhausting at times, especially when your thoughts lead you to conclusions which vex and frustrate you. They weigh you down, but you can’t help but think and think, no matter how draining the experience is.

Their ability to analyze things is great. But, it is also true that we don’t need to pay attention to everything, and crowd our minds with unsavory thoughts. ‘Ignorance is bliss,’ this saying holds good for people like you who can see right through anybody and identify their true motives. Undoubtedly, the world seems a disappointing place occupied by wrong people. Not to mention the feelings that affect you upon the reflection on philosophical problems, global affairs and the eternal questions of life that have no answers. If you learn to ignore, you can feel lighthearted, cheerful and happy.

They want to match everything with their high standards.

People with high IQ are always sure of what they want and anything less than their expectations fail to satisfy them, and this makes it more difficult for them to be happy. This stands true for everything, whether it is career, relationships or anything else that matters in life.

It’s a fact of life that we never get all what we want. But, this practical knowledge is not present in those who have brilliant theoretical minds. They have little practical intelligence and maintain idealistic views of the world that really doesn’t help them in coping with the ways of the world. So, when they find the reality is contrary to their expectations, they feel greatly disappointed.

Intelligent people judge themselves too hard.

One of the reasons of unhappiness also crops from their tendency to be extremely hard on themselves. It is not only about their successes and failures, but everything that is about them. Their deep thinking nature minutely analyses their behavior and actions and compares them against highest standards. Even though it is done unintentionally, this tendency offers them enough reason to blame themselves for no reason.

An act committed years ago can suddenly haunt their mind and remind them how they had failed to do things rightly. This disturbs their mind and messes up their mood. After that, they can hardly spend the day cheerfully or manage a relaxing sleep at night. These types of flashbacks into past mistakes are frequent in intelligent people. Guilt and discontent fill their mind. These negative emotions are enough to erase happiness from one’s life.

They aim for bigger things.

They cannot be satisfied with what they have in life because their high IQ gives them the power to imagine bigger things. They are always looking for a bigger purpose, a meaning and a pattern. Some of them are driven too far away by their intense imagination, making it impossible for them to enjoy the good things they have in their life. Ordinary life is too boring for them and that is why they search for exceptionalism, which of course doesn’t exist in reality.

Do you think this planet is not your real abode or you should live in a different era? It is nothing new about intelligent, deep thinking individuals. With such thoughts swarming your mind, you can hardly hope to be happy when you cannot accept the world and even the time you are living in.

10 Habits of Happy People

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1. They enjoy the moment.
When you enjoy the small moments – good or bad – you’re more aware of what’s happening around you. Happy people focus on what they can control and it’s possible to choose happiness in the moment, no matter the struggles you may be going through.

2. They have a growth mindset.
A growth mindset thrives on challenge and sees failure as a catalyst for growth and stretching beyond existing abilities. Those with a growth mindset had happier relationships, achieved more success, and were much more persistent through challenges.

3. They surround themselves with other happy people.
Who we surround ourselves with has a huge impact on how we think, feel, and what direction we head in life. It may sound harsh, but cutting out the negative people in your life or simply spending less time with them is necessary if you want to be happier.

4. They have a dream.
Whether your dream is to travel the world, start your own business, or learn a new language, having a dream is one of the most important things in remaining optimistic when things get tough.

5. They can wait.
Happy people are willing to wait for the rewards and focus on the journey, how far they’ve come, and what’s ahead for them. They understand that the best things in life come to those who are patient and can stick it out for the long run, whether that’s a job promotion, relationship, or a new skill they’re learning.

6. They schedule “me” time into their day.
Giving is important, but if that means taking up your time to relax, wind down, and learn new things, then you’ll have nothing to give over time. You can’t always be agreeable; that’s how people take advantage of you. You have to set clear boundaries.

7. They spend money on experiences – not material things.
That car that you just bought diminished in value the moment you drove it off the lot, but experiences are memories that will stay with you for the rest of your life. Happy people would rather go on a backpacking trip instead of buying a flat-screen TV that they’ll seldom use.

8. They give more than they take.
Since happy people live in a world of abundance where there’s always more opportunities to be had, more money to be made, and more love to share, they’re always giving when they can. They understand that this will actually make them happier in the end.

9. They embrace discomfort.
Happy people know how to bounce back from failure. Resilience is a padding for the inevitable hardship human beings are bound to face. Struggle is the evidence of progress, and happy people live by this. The rewards of becoming great at a skill far outweigh the pain they have to endure in the process.

10. They are always learning.
Happy people are all lifelong learners, constantly reading new books, exploring other cultures, learning new languages … It is an ongoing process because without growth there’s no life.

5 Actions For A Happier Life

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1. Live in the moment.
Our physical body resides in the present, but most of the time our thoughts drift away to the distant past or the imagined future. It’s why we feel like days are so short, or that we’re always running out of time. Note that small moments make up our memories and our life. It’s what happens right now that should be our greatest concern and has the greatest impact on who we will be.

2. Don’t follow the herd; tread where your heart takes you.
The world needs more brave people who can stand up for their own decisions – people of principle and determination who are willing to dig in their heels because they know that it’s the right thing to do. Live fully and become the best version of ourselves. Discover where our true passions lie. Follow your own path; work with your core purpose; be a ray of light in this otherwise blindingly dark world.

3. Acknowledge different forms of success.
In this money-driven society, it’s quite a common misconception to measure success by how much you make. Money is important, but there are other forms of success that prove more valuable. Success in relationships, health, and career are better source of happiness and fulfillment than financial wealth.

4. Learn how to use obstacles as compasses.
What stands in the way becomes the way. Obstacles are not things we must overcome. They are things that will point us to the right direction; in other words, they are our pathways to success and fulfillment. Great things come before a turning point – people often encounter difficulties before they achieve success.

5. Aim for progress not perfection.
Both progress and perfection are good; but one of them breeds fear and undoing, while the other cultivates confidence and creativity. Perfectionism can be paralyzing, and most of the time, it only leads to fear, avoidance, and undoing. Progress on the other hand allows you to make mistakes; it emphasizes that there is no need for utmost perfection as long as you make progress every day. As you gain progress, you feel better, more confident, and more trustful of your skill.

Why It Is Great to Be Single

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  1. You can flirt all you want.
  2. Going out has endless possibilities.
  3. You can still enjoy the wonders of dating apps.
  4. You never have to clear your browsing history.
  5. You can take up the whole bed any night of the week.
  6. You can’t argue with him/her when you don’t have one.
  7. You don’t have to plan a wedding.
  8. If you’re not thinking about marriage, you certainly don’t have to worry about divorce.
  9. You can be anyone you want on any given day.
  10. You don’t have to wonder if you’re with the right person.
  11. You never have to do anything you don’t feel like doing.
  12. You don’t have to share your meals.
  13. You don’t have to hangout with his/her annoying friends.
  14. You can watch whatever you want after work.
  15. You know you haven’t settled for less.
  16. You have time to work on yourself.
  17. You can be completely selfish.
  18. You can experiment.
  19. You can travel by yourself.
  20. You save money.
  21. Life is more adventurous.
  22. You still have the excitement of finding the one.