One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful.
While there is something to be said for “staying on the sunny side of life”, the truth is, sometimes life sucks, and the healthiest thing you can do is to admit it. Things go wrong, people upset us, accidents happen. These things make us feel like hell. And that’s fine. Negative emotions are a necessary component in life. To deny that negativity is to perpetuate problems rather than to solve them.
Although this blog emphasizes the importance of feeling positive in life, it doesn’t mean we need to do it all the time. When we force ourselves to stay positive at all times, we deny the existence of our life’s problems. And when we deny our problems, we rob ourselves of the chance to solve them and generate happiness. Problems add a sense of meaning and importance to our life. Thus to duck our problems is to lead a meaningless existence.
Completing a marathon makes us happier than eating a chocolate cake. Raising a child makes us happier than beating a video game. Managing a project while struggling to make ends meet makes us happier than buying a new computer. These activities are stressful and often unpleasant. They also require withstanding problem after problem.
But they are also some of the most meaningful moments and joyous things we’ll ever do. They involve pain, struggle, even anger and despair – yet once they’re accomplished, we look back and get all misty-eyed telling our grand-kids about them. Some of the greatest moments of one’s life are not pleasant, not successful, not known, and not positive.