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Doomsday Clock

The Doomsday Clock is a symbol that represents the likelihood of a global catastrophe. The Clock was first represented in 1947 and was then maintained by the Bulletin of the Atomic Scientists’ Science and Security Board. The Clock originally represents an analogy for the threat of a global nuclear war. Since 2007, it also reflects climate change and other new developments in life sciences and technology that can inflict irrevocable harm to humanity. The Clock represents the hypothetical global catastrophe as “midnight” and the Bulletin’s opinion on how close the world is to a global catastrophe as a number of “minutes” to midnight. On 25-Jan-2018, the Bulletin moved the Doomsday Clock to 2 minutes to midnight – the closest to midnight as it has ever been. The world is now as dangerous as it has been since World War II.

It is disappointed that the human race is put in this self-destructive situation by a few nations. But just a thought, if the war starts tomorrow, what will you do? Will you try to figure out a survival plan? Check if any shelter or bunker nearby that you can hide? Withdraw all the money from your bank account and grab as much food as possible? Or just partying as hell with your friends? Will you just stay at home waiting for the doomsday quietly and enjoy a little calm at the end after a busy life? I may delete all my social media accounts as I don’t like to leave things behind. So it’s a pity for those project issues that I didn’t fix, the loved ones who I didn’t have a chance to say farewell, the apologies I didn’t make, those lost friends I didn’t reconnect – all the things I think I always have time to do later.

There is a saying that your whole life will flash before you when you die – your childhood, school life, graduation, first day of your first job, getting married, kids taking their first steps. All the memories are packed into a short period of time like a movie trailer. We can’t change the past, so we hope for a better tomorrow. The Doomsday Clock is a reminder to us that tomorrow is not guaranteed. You are the leading role in your life, so live in the present, enjoy every play and be happy whenever you can. Don’t wait till you are looking down from heaven, life is too short to be unhappy. Although tomorrow’s sunrise encourages us for a brand new start, tonight can still be beautiful and attractive.

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Today is a Present

In the movie “Seven Pounds”, a girl who might die at any time due to her possible sudden heart failure was in love with a guy. One night, they played a “what if” game. The girl said, “What if I get a donor for my heart? What if the heart works and my body doesn’t reject it? What if I have more time to live?”

The guy answered after a pause, “What if we got married? What if we have children? What if we grow old together?”

And they hugged. The girl finally got a donor, had the heart transplant and survived. The donor – the guy she was dating.

Everyone plays this “what if” game to their life.

What if I studied harder and got a better exam result?
What if I took another course in the University?
What if I accepted the other job offer?
What if I got the courage to ask her out?
What if I met her before she met him?
What if I cared about my parents more?
What if I had been more patient and avoided that argument?
What if I saved up more money than spent them without thinking?

The list goes on and on. It’s interesting how the choices we made and our actions can change the path of our life. However, there are no parallel universes (hope you are not a quantum physician) and we cannot go back in time to make all the right decisions and result all the appropriate outcomes. We always like to look back at the past – our golden youth and sweet memories, and also all the chances that slipped through our fingers in those years.

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift, that’s why it is called the “present”. Misery is optional, success is possible. The choice is up to you. Hug the ones you love, learn and do what you like, give up your bad habits, live your desired lifestyle. When we recall the past, we usually find that it is the simplest things that in retrospect give off the greatest glow of happiness. I like the quote from Dan Brown – “If not me – then who? If not now – then when? If not this way – then how?” Put the past behind, put the future into proper perspective, and live each day as if it might be your last, for one day it will be. So, pursue your passions and make the right choices now. Make your life matter!

The Happy Drummer

S. White – a young drummer from Taiwan, normally performs in random locales in Taiwan. Her YouTube videos are popular and she has fans of all ages. Above is her performance with “Moves Like Jagger”. The glasses, the ponytail, her smile, singing along with the song and the amazing stick spinning are all her trademarks. But what really inspires me is her enjoyment in the show, you won’t feel bored in watching her videos and you may even consider to learn playing drums at the end.

I have learnt a few things from S. White’s videos. We should all live with passion about something. Life sometimes feels pretty ordinary and full of routines. We work five days a week and assume everything ahead will remain unchanged. But what do you enjoy doing in your spare time? S. White said she’s an introvert, but playing drums brings out the other side of her. Pick up a new hobby that you are interested to make your life more exciting. If you enjoy what you are doing, you will feel the joy and fun like S. White in her performance.

Don’t assume S. White would play the drums like this overnight. In additional to the energy she put into the performance, there are a lot of practices and hard work behind. She said she would observe other drummers and keep improving her skills. Learning is about progressing. Mastering a new skill is a sense of fulfillment, pride, and satisfaction with yourself. Learn something new. Take a class. You will then want to see more of the world. Never leave it too late that it becomes a regret.

When S. White dropped her stick at 2:45, she picked up another stick and kept playing without even missing a beat. Things don’t always go as planned in life. We don’t control everything that happens. Always have a contingency plan and stay prepared to deal with the unexpected. When life is out of control, be strong to move forward. Focus on what you can do and do it well. Life is full of hard, beautiful, broken things and wars we fight within ourselves. And they always lead to great adventures.

You can watch more S. White’s videos in her YouTube Channel.

A Letter to Myself

Dear Me,

You and I go way back, to the beginning. We’re totally connected in a way no one will, or can ever understand. We’ve been there, standing together, contemplating in the midnight, singing in the shower, laughing at those funny YouTube videos. It’s always been you and me, always and forever.

Life hasn’t been easy on you lately, and I am truly sorry about that. You are seriously overworked and lack of sleep. But despite it all, you have managed to keep your head up and continue fighting throughout. Your project even won an industry award. Be proud of everything you have gone through, and mostly, what you’ve become.

Stop being so hard on yourself. All the challenges today will make sense to you one day. All the pain and frustration will become worth it. Remember, everything happens for a reason. You are in the exact place you are meant to be right now. So breathe, be patient, and trust the course of your life. Let go of all the expectations and accept life for what it is.

Although you had worked so hard, your contributions are not well recognized. You were informed that you will get no pay rise this year because your salary is at the top of the range and their system does not allow to make any adjustments. Don’t take it so personal and try to not let others get you down. Most of the time, things have nothing to do with you. Life is unfair and try to understand their side of the story. Learn from their wrongdoings and then let it remain in the past. Not everything is always how it appears.

Christmas is fast approaching and this year will be another lonely one. As you grow old, I understand you already gave up hope about finding a partner. Frankly, there is so much more to life than a girlfriend. You don’t need to rely on others for your happiness. Just because you have not found it yet, does not mean you don’t deserve to be loved. Be patient and stay positive. It will be worth the wait when the right person appears one day.

Thank you for never giving up and being so tough. You inspire others and you lift them up. Be a good friend. Be kind to your family. Be a better blogger. Be selfless. Be professional at work. Just like the lyrics of your favorite song: “I faced it all and I stood tall. And did it my way.” I know you deserve the world, and even a little more. Now go and get it.

Love,
Me

Related Post: Letters To Myself

How Much Can You Love?

After married for more than 50 years, my parents keep arguing every day. It seems like just the voice from one of them can simply lead to a heated argument. I wonder they may divorce one day in their seventies. Looking at them, marriage is like a process that turns a person that you once loved most to the one you eventually hate most. People would think marriage can last for a life time before, now people wonder how long their marriages can last. New definition about relationship such as one-night stand and speed dating are surfaced. How much can you love another person? How long can you share your life with your other half without feeling bored?

True love may only be found in movies and dramas nowadays. For example, even Jack knew that there was no arrangement for him to get off the Titanic, he still persuaded Rose to board the lifeboat. They looked at each other when Rose’s lifeboat was lowered down to the sea. Rose then realized that she could not leave Jack and jumped back onto the lower deck and reunited with him.

In the “Twilight” movies, Bella did not want to grow old while her vampire boyfriend Edward stopped aging at 17. Oddly enough, she asked Edward to transform her to a vampire. However, Edward did not want her to sacrifice her life for him and suppressed the temptation to suck her blood. Realizing the danger that he and his family posed to Bella, Edward ended their relationship and left with his family.

And in the Japanese drama “Proposal Daisakusen”, Ken was stuck in the situation to provide a speech in the wedding as the best friend of the bride Rei, who he loved for a long time. However, Rei was going to marry someone else. After a formal start, Ken could not control his emotion and confessed his love to Rei. Below is part of his touching speech.

“For 14 years, during happy times, difficult times, times of suffering, the one who always spent time with Rei, the one who would be able to make her happy, I seriously thought that I am the only one who could do that. The one who knows her best is me.

But in the end, these are just thoughts inside my heart, because not once have I been able to become honest about it in front of her. Though I always have been near her, the words I thought I would say someday, I haven’t been able to say it after all.

That one thing … never did I say it. I … I was in love with Rei. Honestly, if I say so, even now, I am still in love with Rei … But, she is getting married to someone today. Though it’s excruciating for me, she will get married. Because her place in my heart is so vast, the struggle for me to arrive at these words has taken an extreme amount of time.

Rei. Congratulations on your wedding. Please be happy. If you don’t … I really won’t forgive you.”

Even if it hurts and the ending is not perfect, you have to let the one you love be happy.

Midlife Crisis

I woke up in the morning, despite the tiredness, I forced myself to get up and get ready for work. The weather outside was fine and it’s a perfect day for a day off. But the project was late and there were too many issues to handle. As I walked to the bathroom, the heel pain still remained from my last run. I looked in the mirror while I was brushing my teeth, one of my eyes was blood red, I thought I got the flu. Time was not kind to us. Especially after you had walked the first half of your life, you may feel lost at some point – a dead-end job, a failing relationship, an unimpressed account balance and the uncertainty of future. And worse, your body is not young anymore.

Feeling lost is fine. Almost everyone had a period of their lives where they had no clue what they were doing. So this is just yours. Being disappointed in yourself just means you know you can do better. If you were never falling short of your own goals, you’d be living your life all wrong. Disappointment means you believe in bigger things for yourself. Hold this belief, it will push you further than you can imagine. You still have time to fail at love, at your career, at your personal goals. You still have the strength and determination to start over again. You can still fall and pick yourself back up, so many more times.

Everyone’s terrified. None of us really knows what’s coming next. No one actually has a foolproof plan. No one is 100% sure of how to get where they want in life and no one has it all figured out. Life is constantly changing. Uncertainty is a key ingredient to the whole shebang. If you had it all figured out right now, the rest of your life would be boring. The ups and downs are just a natural part of what keeps things interesting. And the truth is, it’s never too late to ride out those fluctuations. A period of struggle prepares you for a future of resilience. We all messed up and had made mistakes that we wish we could take back. You’re not alone. We’ve all done some really screwed-up stuff and we’ve all survived it. So you’re probably going to as well. The future still has plenty of time to fall into place.

Fight for a Better Day

I met up with an old friend in a cafe after work. We were colleagues before and usually worked on the same projects. Our relationship was a funny one. We always argued with each other due to our roles.

Me: This is not an issue, you should not test in this way.
Her: This is an issue and you need to fix it.
Me: It will never happen in production.
Her: But you need to handle all the scenarios.

The conversation went on and on. Others in the office had gotten used to our heated discussions. But it’s interesting that we would be united and work together when facing external parties such as customers or other groups in the company. We covered for each other and trusted the other would be there to support when needed. As rivals as friends, we kept this kind of relationship until I changed job a year ago.

After catching up with the latest updates on our work life, she said, “I have a not so good news to tell you.” While I was expecting a joke as a follow-up, she continued, “I was separated from my husband.” I was shocked and asked her what had happened. She bit her lip and said with a sigh, “It’s just not working out.” As this became personal, after ensuring she’s fine, I quickly talked about a different topic. We chatted for an hour and when we left the cafe, she asked, “Do you have 5 minutes to spare? I want a quick smoke.”

So I watched her smoking in the street outside the cafe. In my mind, she’s like a wild horse that is hard to tame. But tonight, I saw a broken soul who tried to blow her despair out to this world. I felt like watching a reflection on myself. We are the same type of person. We won’t share our pain with others. We won’t show our weakness. We won’t ask for others’ mercy. I stood there quietly, a few steps away, I’ll always be here when needed, just like in the old days. I gave her a hug in the train station, I hoped it could cheer her up and show her at least I care. A year from today, she will be fine, just give time some time.

At some point in your life you may have an idea of how your life will turn out, but chances are, it won’t turn out that way. No matter how hard you try to plan your life, there are going to be some curveballs, but along with those curveballs, there are also unexpected blessings. There is a purpose for everyone we meet. They may have made us mad, sad, hurt, heartbroken, angry or annoyed, but they all teach us valuable lessons. No relationship is a waste of time. The wrong ones prepare us for the right ones. Appreciate everyone that enters your life as they are contributing to your growth and happiness. No matter what is happening, when life gets you down, just fight for a better day.