Once upon a time, the Sun and the Wind got into an argument about who was the greatest force of nature. The Wind was very proud of his unstoppable strength, so he challenged the Sun to a test.
Looking down at the world, they saw an old man walking down a village road wearing a coat. So they decided that whoever can get the coat off the man would win and be declared the strongest.
The Wind tried first. He became a great storm, howling and pushing the man around. The sound was deafening and the wind was freezing cold. But the old man had survived many storms in his years, so he just wrapped his coat around himself even tighter and continued walking against the force of the wind. Eventually, tired from all the effort, the Wind gave up.
He told the Sun it was impossible to get the coat off the man, that man was surely a powerful soul for having stood against his great powers. The Sun listened patiently. It was now his turn to try, so he smiled. His warm smile shone down on the old man. Feeling warm in the sunlight, the man took off his coat without a struggle.
Life will be easier with kindness and warmness than by force and shouting.