Sometimes I feel jealous when my friends posted their beautiful trip photos on Facebook; when they got a promotion or found a better-paying job; when they had more fun while they were out; when they had their lives in order and enjoy life more with their loved ones. Although I will be happy for anyone who’s got everything sorted out, I feel life is unfair and someone had better luck than others. But if we always compare ourselves to others, we will always be unsatisfied. There are always people who are more successful than us. We will upset when we compare ourselves with them and question why we can’t be at the same level as them.
Remember that each person is unique and grew up very differently. Our family, our childhood, people around us and our past experience make us different from each other and shape us into the person we are today. So accept yourself for not being like the person next door. Even our life is different from others; we can still live happily in our minds. We are not perfect – no one is perfect. Everybody has flaws and things they want to improve about themselves. Don’t be too harsh on yourself. There will be unexpected roadblocks that you have to go through that would stray you away from reaching your goals. Take positive lessons from those times and forgive yourself.
For most people, life doesn’t turn out the way they expected and the ending isn’t the version they hoped for. But is this necessarily a bad thing? As time passes by, we continue to strive towards some old aspirations without even stopping to rethink whether these wishes are actually something we sincerely want. Stop for a moment and think about what you want, and stop being hard on yourself because of something that never happened. Look at life with a “glass half full” mentality, every missed chance is just another opportunity waiting to be unveiled. Not getting that person you wanted just means you were meant for a different person, one that may be better for you.