Emotional Intelligence (EQ) – an aptitude for identifying and managing emotions and the emotions of others.
Emotional Intelligence consists of 3 primary skills: (1) the ability to analyze interior emotions and the feelings of those around them, (2) the capacity to apply emotions to tasks, and (3) the facility to take control of emotions.
Studies demonstrate people with high EQs outperform others, excel at their jobs, are happy in their relationships, and consistently work towards attaining positive results in all aspects of life. But what don’t they do? Below are 7 things that are avoided by them.
1. They don’t get caught up in other people’s drama.
They listen carefully, provide gentle, loving, but authoritative advice, and offer assistance. But they don’t permit others’ lives and reactions to rule their own.
2. They don’t complain.
Instead of looking for someone or something to blame, they immediately think of how to constructively address the dilemma.
3. They don’t always say yes – to others and themselves.
They exercise their right to say no. They rely on their willpower and they have the freedom to concentrate on their ambitions and overall well-being.
4. They don’t gossip.
They understand that all humans are equally deserving, and that what others might perceive as a mistake is an opportunity for improvement.
5. They don’t count on others for happiness or confidence.
They take emotions in their own hands and find hobbies that delight them, strive for achievements that will lead to a sense of self-worth, and search within for love and acceptance.
6. They don’t engage in negative self-talk.
They acknowledge that negative thoughts are just thoughts. They recognize that the derogatory interior voices they hear are theirs to turn down, tune out, or silence completely.
7. They don’t dwell on the past.
Instead of dwelling on the past, they learn from it. They have the power to inform their present – without diminishing their ability to advance or harness their self-satisfaction, gratitude, and hope.