She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.
Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.
The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but … it landed on another lady in the group. Now, it was the turn of the other lady to continue the drama.
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.
Was the cockroach responsible for the ladies’ histrionic behavior? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.
It is not the shouting of our parents, our bosses or our partners that disturbs us, but it’s our inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs us.
It’s not the traffic jam on the road that disturbs us, but our inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs us.
It’s our reaction to the problem that creates chaos in our life. We should not react in life – instead, we should always respond. The ladies reacted, whereas the waiter responded. Reactions are instinctive while responses are well thought of.
A beautiful way to understand life. People who are happy is not because everything is right in their life. They are happy because their attitude towards everything in their life is right.
– Extracted from a speech by Sundar Pichai