Life will get much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got. The key is to be thankful for every experience – positive or negative. It’s taking a step back and saying, “Thank you for the lesson.” It’s realizing that grudges from the past are a perfect waste of today’s happiness, and that holding one is like letting unwanted company live rent free in your heart.
Forgiveness is a promise – one you want to keep. When you forgive someone you are making a promise not to hold the unchangeable past against your present self. It has nothing to do with freeing a criminal of his or her crime, and it’s everything to do with freeing yourself of the burden of being an eternal victim.
It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself. You really have to love yourself before you can get anything done in this world. So make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you.
Know your worth, even if other people don’t. Today, let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as incomplete as you think you are. Yes, let someone love you despite all of this, and let that someone be you.