Everyone fails. The best of us fail, and the rest of us fail too. Those who never rise from defeat often see failure as final. What we all need to remember is that life is not a pass-fail test. It’s a trial-and-error process. Those who succeed bounce back from their bonehead mistakes because they view their setbacks as temporary and as learning experiences.
Every successful person has messed up at some point. Often, they say their mistakes were critical to their success. When they flopped, they didn’t quit. Instead, they recognized their problems, worked harder, and searched for more creative solutions. If they failed five times, they tried five times harder. Winston Churchill captured the essence of it when he said, “Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.”
If you can’t overcome your defeats, it may be that you have personalized them. Losing doesn’t make you a loser any more than striking out makes a great baseball player a benchwarmer. As long as you stay in the game and keep swinging, you can still be a slugger. If you aren’t willing to do the work required, then losing isn’t your problem, you are the problem. To achieve success you have to feel worthy of it and then take responsibility for making it happen. You could view your failures as a gift because they often set you up for a breakthrough.
There is a Japanese proverb: “Fall seven times, stand up eight.”