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Why Is Love So Hard to Find

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Some people find it easy to fall in love, others not so much. We tend to fall in love with people who meet a certain criteria in our mind. Based on each individual’s subconscious criterion, the reasons vary from person to person on why it’s so hard to fall in love.

Loving a person can be extremely difficult:

1. Fear of commitment

Some couples have commitment issues and never seem to want to accept the terms of being “official.” Being “official” can suggest less freedom and less sexual variety. The hook-up culture is so prominent in society these days, it allows minimal time for commitment, minimal emotional attachment and more opportunities for physical pleasure. Love requires us to confront our own laziness, impulsiveness and boredom, which is hard for most people to do.

2. Fear of failed relationships

We’ve all heard stories from our friends, family and colleagues being related to some sort of cheating scandal. As a result, some have major trust issues, while others might feel burdened with insecurity from their partner.

3. Superficiality and shallowness

Some people are incredibly shallow, and it doesn’t help to know that a lot of people care about appearances when looking for a partner. Hence, it can make a person proceed with extreme caution.

4. Walking out is easier

A relationship requires a lot of time and effort. Some people aren’t necessarily willing to put in the effort and would rather break it off. With this being said, for some people, it’s easy to walk out because they know they have other options.

5. Process of recovery

After falling in love, you have to pick up the pieces from the heartbreak. We become guarded because our feelings have been hurt in the past. We’d rather not leap into things because we know very well how helpless and awful heartbreak can feel. Giving another person the power to put you through the same pain is never easy.

6. Having high standards

As we grow older, we add more things to our list of what we look for. This makes finding a partner tricky because each person has a certain score for his or herself to determine his or her own worth. When we meet someone, we tend to point out the negative aspects. It’s definitely good to maintain high standards because you want to be with someone who matches your worth, but sometimes, standards can become unattainable.

7. Other priorities

It’s hard falling in love due to societal factors. Adulthood tends to be delayed, and now there are more people going to college and moving back in with their parents. Starting a relationship requires time, effort and money. Quite frankly, a lot of people feel that they can afford to wait and rather concentrate on getting their careers off the ground.

8. Unknown definition of love

For some, love is a feeling of being in the moment much more than just being loved. For others, love requires a lot of personal growth. Our culture has dismantled the definition of love through the exposure of Disney and Hollywood ideals. Very few couples lock eyes and just know that they’ve found “the one.” Keep in mind that love might not come as natural or as intensely as it does in the movies.

9. Not wanting to hurt others

On the other end of the spectrum, some find it hard to fall in love because they have never felt a deep connection with anyone. Dating someone who has gotten really attached to you could make a breakup messy, which makes you want to stay clear of relationships all together. It’s hard not to hurt people, and it’s even more difficult dealing with the guilt that comes with causing pain to others.

Source: Elite Daily

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