1. Hold a grudge
Forgiveness is the key to freedom. When we hate, feel anger or resentment towards another, the intended impact, to hurt them, backfires on us. We harbor the anger and resentment within our own minds and bodies. And it’s poisonous.
2. Give up on our dreams
So often we bury our gifts, follow a “safe” path or simply do not have the courage to pursue what it is that we want. This results in a lot of regret later in life and even in the present moment. By ignoring our dreams we are not sharing our unique gifts with the world. What dreams have you given up on?
3. Not make time for what brings us joy
When we do not make what brings us joy a priority we are often completely unaware of the happiness we could be experiencing. It results in a much less rich, less colourful life.
4. Settle for superficial relationships
We don’t realise that connecting with others has nothing to do with our exotic vacations or successful career stories – it is about making a soul connection which often arises from deeper conversations. Don’t settle for superficial relationships.
Buddha said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Comparison is selective, exaggerated and unreal. We have no idea what is going on in other people’s lives. We may envy their fortune but not know their child is struggling with bullying or that their marriage is falling apart. Instead we should be too busy envying our own good fortune – gratitude, my friends.
6. Value possessions over experiences
We prize possessions so highly when life experiences are so much more meaningful. We often do not make travel, trips to see loved ones, going to our favourite live event, and dinner with an old friend a priority over shopping and collecting things.
7. Tell ourselves life is “good enough”
Truly happy people push themselves. They understand that pushing our boundaries and making progress is rewarding and fun. When was the last time you did something completely new or set the bar higher for yourself? Don’t settle for “good enough”.
8. Let fear, not creativity, rule
The next time you make a decision, lets tune in to which part of you it is coming from. The best decisions are always made out of creativity and love.
9. Do not give
At the end of it all, it is not about us! The greatest, most real and rewarding sense of happiness comes from helping others. This is the most beautiful thing about the world – that giving of ourselves creates the most joy.
Most of the things can only offer us temporary satisfaction but in the longer term make us depressed. We are looking for joy outside of ourselves. Joy and peace come from within. Whatever you do, don’t self-medicate.
11. Fail to live in the moment!
We are so busy worrying about what will be in the future or living in the past. True joy, peace and contentment come from being alive and present in the current moment. It is all we have and it is all there really is.