People make mistakes. Taking responsibility when things go wrong instead of blaming others isn’t masochistic, it’s empowering – because then you focus on doing things better or smarter next time. And when you get better or smarter, you also get happier.
No one likes you for your clothes, your car, your possessions, your title, or your accomplishments. People may like your things – but that doesn’t mean they like you. Genuine relationships make you happier, and you’ll only form genuine relationships when you stop trying to impress and start trying to just be yourself.
When you’re afraid or insecure, you hold on tightly to what you know, even if what you know isn’t particularly good for you. Holding on to what you think you need won’t make you happier; letting go so you can reach for and try to earn what you want will. Even if you don’t succeed in earning what you want, the act of trying alone will make you feel better about yourself.
Interrupting isn’t just rude. Want people to like you? Listen to what they say. Focus on what they say. Ask questions to make sure you understand what they say. They’ll love you for it – and you’ll love how that makes you feel.
If something is wrong, don’t waste time whining. Put that effort into making the situation better. Eventually you’ll have to do that. So why waste time? Fix it now. And do the same with your friends, don’t just be the shoulder they cry on. Friends don’t let friends whine – friends help friends make their lives better.
Yeah, you’re the boss. Still, the only thing you really control is you. If you find yourself trying hard to control other people, you’ve decided that you are more important than them. Control often requires force, fear, authority, or some form of pressure – none of those let you feel good about yourself. Find people who want to go where you’re going. You’ll have more fun and create better relationships.
Criticizing doesn’t make you smarter, better, or more insightful. It just makes you: unique, matchless, one of a kind, but in the end, just you. Just like everyone else. Everyone is different: not better, not worse, just different. Appreciate the differences instead of the shortcomings and you’ll see people – and yourself – in a better light.
The higher you rise and the more you accomplish, the more likely you are to think you know everything – and to tell people everything you think you know. When you speak with more finality than foundation, people may hear you but they don’t listen.
The past is valuable. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others. Then let it go. When something bad happens to you, see that as a chance to learn something you didn’t know. When another person makes a mistake, see that as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding. Think about what went wrong, but only in terms of how you will make sure that, next time, you and the people around you will know how to make sure it goes right.
Don’t let your fears hold you back. Whatever you’ve been planning, whatever you’ve imagined, whatever you’ve dreamed of, get started on it today. Put your fears aside and get started. Do something. Do anything. Otherwise, today is gone. Once tomorrow comes, today is lost forever. Today is the most precious asset you own – and probably the one thing you should truly fear wasting.