Angela Sayers’ journey ended on July 15th, 2011 at the age of twenty. The bone cancer that took her right leg at age 14 eventually took her life. Angela lived a half year longer than the doctors predicted and was active and involved right up to the end.
“There may not be much that the doctors can do at this point, but there are still things that I can do. And that is to live, freely and happily, with the time I have left.”
Here are Angela’s advices on 10 Steps to Moving Forward:
1. Cry, yell, and grieve.
Whenever you go through a difficult time, it changes you. It changes the way you think and perceive things, and the first step to acceptance of the new reality is to mourn the past and the person you used to be. So, let yourself grieve for as long as you need to, and when you’re able, find the next step.
2. Talk when you’re ready.
When you’re ready to talk, find someone who you can talk to as an equal and whose opinion you value, and pour your heart out. Sometimes, just having someone who cares and who is there for you, no matter what, gives you the boost you need to move on.
3. Escape when you need to.
Take a break from the things that are weighing you down, and come back to them later with a fresh outlook. But not too often. Escaping never makes your problems go away, and you always have to deal with them eventually.
4. Start small.
If the big things are too overwhelming at any given moment, start small and try to focus on smaller more attainable goals. You’ll get there in the same amount of time, whether or not you worry about it.
5. Find your muse.
Your muse is the source of your inspiration. Find the things that inspire you the most, and absorb them into your world. These could be anything.
6. Reach out.
Reaching out doesn’t necessarily mean telling everyone about your struggles, rather it means finding people you enjoy, and spend time with them. It can mean laughing and teasing each other, but it also means support.
7. Channel your nervous energy.
Often you find yourself stressing out and worrying. The best way to prevent this is to flow yourself headlong into another project, albeit a more relaxing one.
8. Help someone else.
Helping someone else is actually a great way to help you deal with tough times that are going on your own life. Not only does helping someone through their problems distract you, it also fills you with a pleasant satisfaction.
9. Focus on the good things.
Optimism is imperative to dealing with any situation. By focusing on the good things in your life, you can muster up enough strength to hope. And hope is ultimately what allows you to move on.
10. Take one day at a time.
Even if the moment you are in seems difficult, it is important to focus on the moment you are in. No matter what you’re going through, you will get through. No matter how hard it seems in that moment, or how bleak the future looks, time will move you forward against your will. Eventually you’ll find that things don’t seem as hard, or hurt as bad, and life will take on a new routine. And you’ll be okay. Cherish every single day.