A kind warning in advance: This post is about death and may be a little sad.
My friend’s friend passed away because of cancer. My friend is depressed and sobs whenever we talk about this. I’m not good at comforting people, the only words I can think of are: “Your friend may now rest in peace in a happier place without suffering.” I wonder how a healthy person can be conquered by a terminal illness. God, why did you punish them, make them suffer, and eventually take them away? What did they do wrong?
Not until the end of the journey – you will not know how important you are to your family and friends; you will not know there are professionals who decorate you and organize your final farewell party; you will not know those sweet memories you had given to the people around you; you will not know there are so many stories about you that can be shared; you will not know there are so much love, and so much tears.
You know how the time flies
Only yesterday was the time of our lives
We were born and raised in a summer haze
Bound by the surprise of our glory days
When your health is getting worse and you know your time is ticking, you cannot go for those luxury items on your bucket list such as traveling or do a parachute jump. You will spend more time with your family, meet those precious persons in your life once more, and return what you had borrowed from others. That’s what my friend’s friend did in her final days of life.
No matter what’s happened, we need time to digest. After some time, the sadness will fade away and everyone will adapt to a life without you. Darkness will be broken by the dawn and spring will come after winter. But occasionally, you will be remembered by someone in the rainy days, when wind howling in the middle of the night, when your favorite songs are played, when those photos are viewed, and when your life adventures are mentioned.
Nothing compares, no worries or cares
Regrets and mistakes, they’re memories made
Who would have known how bittersweet this would taste?
There are two things in life we can’t choose: birth and death. To live is to embrace death. Dream as if you’ll live forever, live as if you’ll die today. Try to make each day your masterpiece. When you wake up, think about what a privilege it is to simply be alive and healthy. Don’t be afraid your life will end, be afraid it will never begin. At the end of the day, only memories will live on forever.
Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead
Lyrics are extracted from: “Someone Like You” – Adele